Hey readers! Before I begin, I would like to apologize to all of you for the reason that I haven’t written a blog post in a while.
Anyway, today I’m writing about this ‘self-made concept’ of ‘Concentric Circles of Friendship’. You must be thinking, what on earth is even this thing? And to this question of yours, I have an answer, I guess.
But before that, I’ll first tell you how and when this concept was created in my mind full of delusions and distractions and tons of weird fantasies. I was in 10th grade and as usual, my dad got a transfer order and hence,we moved to a new town after a couple of days. It got me thinking about how many people I have met in my life and in that count of people how many people I’m close to and again in that count of close friends how many people I can die for. So while I was thinking that, it was kind of making weird formations in my mind, and then I was like “Oh fuck! This so looks like concentric circles!” So, now you know how this concept came up.
Now, I’m going to tell you what is it and how exactly is applicable to all of us.
I’m a ‘recently-turned-into-ambivert’ person, so obviously, I enjoy the privileges of being an extrovert and an introvert as well. But still, I believe I’m more of an extrovert. I love meeting new people, hanging out, partying, etc. So, wherever I go and whatever I do, I never fail to make friends.
And I’m going to take college life friendship as a reference here because firstly, I’m a college student; secondly, youth population is more in comparison to other types of population and lastly, college is the time where we learn a lot about life and we change, both in negative and positive ways.
Everything’s rosy and cheesy at beginning, we make dozens of friends, make lots of promises to be friends for life and all that. So, while making these promises, we don’t think about future, all we want is to be happy and live in the moment. Everything goes good. That’s phase one.
But after a couple of months, reality hits you hard. The dozens of friends turn into a small basket full of friends. But then, phase one repeats here. In addition to that, they also find nooks together in the friends who left the group. But then, they all grow up and as they grow up, they do get busy. Rest you can figure out. And that’s phase two.
Now this is going to be the last phase, small basket of friends to hand picked two or three friends or maybe just one friend. You see, these friends are busy doing their own thing or maybe with some job or some kind of gig or maybe casually partying around with some of their friends who are maybe or maybe not your friends. But then, these friends can literally die or kill for you and when the time comes, you will do the same. You will rip the world apart for them. Drinking and smoking might not sound fun, but with these friends, there’s a whole different essence of drinking and smoking. You live those couple of hours getting drunk and high with these people with an amazing trip containing both good trips and bad trips. You might not meet these people daily, but whenever you meet, the aura just changes in a jiffy.
So, now this was the main logic behind my formation. I’ll tell you now how to put it in the formation.
Draw a big circle. Put names of everyone you know. Your acquaintances, close/good friends, special ones, just put them all in there. Then again draw a circle, inside the bigger one. Put names of your close/good friends and your special ones in that. Lastly, draw the smallest circle within the other two concentric circles. Put names of those whom you love or your lifelines or your best friends. Now take a pen, strike off the names of special ones and close/good friends from the biggest circle. Strike off the names of special ones from the second circle. And now in the innermost circle, you are not going to strike off a single name. So, you see, the biggest circle has acquaintances, then the next circle has close/good friends and the innermost circle is for the people you love.
So, what does it teach?
It’s very simple. You have a big life and obviously, you are going to meet people. And that’s why the big circle for them. But then we go on segregating, segregating in some cases isn’t that bad after all. And lastly when we think about the people we really love or care about, we realize that they are not too great in number. There are very few people special to us. And these are the people for life. That’s why, you never cut them off your life irrespective of what happens in life.
Well, this is all I had to say, I guess.
Thanks a lot for taking out your precious time to read this blog post.
I hope you liked it. Also, I’m open to feedback and criticism. Let me know in the comment section about what you feel about my post and how I can be better at it.
With Loads of Love,
Soumi Ghosh 🙂